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This guidebook walks you through the 7 essential steps for understanding and regulating relational triggers. Instead of getting lost in overwhelm, shutdown, or old stories, you’ll learn how to slow down your internal world so you can respond with clarity rather than reactivity.
Using simple language and grounded emotional frameworks, this book helps you track what’s happening in your mind, body, and nervous system the moment you feel triggered. You’ll learn how to separate old wounds from the present moment, how to stay connected to yourself, and how to communicate what you actually need.
This is the exact process we teach in coaching, retreats, and relationship work—made simple, practical, and usable in real time.
• Identify the moment you get triggered
• Name the story you create about them
• Name the story you create about yourself
• Notice the sensations happening in your body
• Understand the emotion beneath the reaction
• See the core wound driving your interpretation
• Identify the reassurance or safety your system is asking for
This book gives you a map, not a theory—so you always know where you are inside your trigger and what step comes next.
This guide is for people who:
• Want to understand their reactions instead of being ruled by them
• Feel overwhelmed, anxious, or defensive in conflict
• Want to stay grounded in hard conversations
• Repeat the same rupture cycles and want a clear way out
• Want more self-awareness, internal capacity, and emotional clarity
• Are doing relational or trauma-informed work and need a simple system
• Want a way to explain their inner world to a partner without spiraling
It’s for anyone who wants less confusion and more clarity in their emotional life.
Most people don’t know why they’re triggered or what’s actually happening inside them. They get swept into:
• automatic reactions
• old wounds
• spiraling thoughts
• nervous-system overwhelm
• stories that aren’t true
• disconnection from themselves and their partner
This guidebook solves that by giving you a step-by-step process for understanding your inner world so you can regulate, communicate, and reconnect—with yourself and with others.
You learn how to move from reaction → awareness → connection.
Deepen the work. Make it usable in real life.
This 8-PDF pack is designed to support the emotional and relational work inside each book. While the book gives you understanding, this pack gives you the tools to practice it in daily moments of stress, conflict, or overwhelm.
1. Somatic Practices for Regulating Your Nervous System
Practical tools for calming fight/flight and freeze states so your body can come back into safety. These practices help you stay present instead of overwhelmed.
2. Trauma Languages & How to Bring Your Body Back to Safety
Clear regulation steps for each trauma language — Protector, Pleaser, Fixer, Withdrawer, and Fighter — so you know exactly what to do when your pattern activates.
3. Trauma Talks: Safer Words for the 5 Ways We Cope
Compassionate, non-triggering language that helps you communicate during stress without escalating conflict or shutting down connection.
4. From Protection to Connection: Trauma Repair Scripts That Rebuild Trust
Real-world repair phrases rooted in authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability. These scripts help you repair ruptures without blame, collapse, or defensiveness.
5. Repair Phrases for Clarity, Connection & Calm — Needs Inventory
A list of emotional needs + phrase templates that help you communicate clearly when you feel overwhelmed or misunderstood.
6. Beneath the Trigger: A Map to Emotional Clarity & Core Needs
A step-by-step map that walks you from raw sensation → emotion → story → wound → need. This is SEPIC in a simple, usable form.
7. The 5 Trauma Language Archetypes
Breakdowns of the core wounds, defensive patterns, beliefs, and somatic cues for each trauma language so you can identify your adaptive style and shift it.
8. Your Personal Awareness Map
A one-page worksheet to map your wound, triggers, nervous system state, and growth path — turning insight into actual change.
• Build emotional capacity so stress doesn’t take over
• Stay connected during rupture instead of shutting down or reacting
• Communicate your needs more clearly
• Repair with honesty and accountability
• Understand what’s beneath your triggers
• Regulate your body in real time
• Move from protection → awareness → connection
Books give you insight.
This pack gives you integration.
Together, they help you become more grounded, aware, and capable of real connection.
The book gives you understanding.
The bundle gives you transformation.
Together, they help you become a grounded, connected, self-aware human—capable of real intimacy and repair.
This guidebook walks you through the 7 essential steps for understanding and regulating relational triggers. Instead of getting lost in overwhelm, shutdown, or old stories, you’ll learn how to slow down your internal world so you can respond with clarity rather than reactivity.
Using simple language and grounded emotional frameworks, this book helps you track what’s happening in your mind, body, and nervous system the moment you feel triggered. You’ll learn how to separate old wounds from the present moment, how to stay connected to yourself, and how to communicate what you actually need.
This is the exact process we teach in coaching, retreats, and relationship work—made simple, practical, and usable in real time.
• Identify the moment you get triggered
• Name the story you create about them
• Name the story you create about yourself
• Notice the sensations happening in your body
• Understand the emotion beneath the reaction
• See the core wound driving your interpretation
• Identify the reassurance or safety your system is asking for
This book gives you a map, not a theory—so you always know where you are inside your trigger and what step comes next.
This guide is for people who:
• Want to understand their reactions instead of being ruled by them
• Feel overwhelmed, anxious, or defensive in conflict
• Want to stay grounded in hard conversations
• Repeat the same rupture cycles and want a clear way out
• Want more self-awareness, internal capacity, and emotional clarity
• Are doing relational or trauma-informed work and need a simple system
• Want a way to explain their inner world to a partner without spiraling
It’s for anyone who wants less confusion and more clarity in their emotional life.
Most people don’t know why they’re triggered or what’s actually happening inside them. They get swept into:
• automatic reactions
• old wounds
• spiraling thoughts
• nervous-system overwhelm
• stories that aren’t true
• disconnection from themselves and their partner
This guidebook solves that by giving you a step-by-step process for understanding your inner world so you can regulate, communicate, and reconnect—with yourself and with others.
You learn how to move from reaction → awareness → connection.
Deepen the work. Make it usable in real life.
This 8-PDF pack is designed to support the emotional and relational work inside each book. While the book gives you understanding, this pack gives you the tools to practice it in daily moments of stress, conflict, or overwhelm.
1. Somatic Practices for Regulating Your Nervous System
Practical tools for calming fight/flight and freeze states so your body can come back into safety. These practices help you stay present instead of overwhelmed.
2. Trauma Languages & How to Bring Your Body Back to Safety
Clear regulation steps for each trauma language — Protector, Pleaser, Fixer, Withdrawer, and Fighter — so you know exactly what to do when your pattern activates.
3. Trauma Talks: Safer Words for the 5 Ways We Cope
Compassionate, non-triggering language that helps you communicate during stress without escalating conflict or shutting down connection.
4. From Protection to Connection: Trauma Repair Scripts That Rebuild Trust
Real-world repair phrases rooted in authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability. These scripts help you repair ruptures without blame, collapse, or defensiveness.
5. Repair Phrases for Clarity, Connection & Calm — Needs Inventory
A list of emotional needs + phrase templates that help you communicate clearly when you feel overwhelmed or misunderstood.
6. Beneath the Trigger: A Map to Emotional Clarity & Core Needs
A step-by-step map that walks you from raw sensation → emotion → story → wound → need. This is SEPIC in a simple, usable form.
7. The 5 Trauma Language Archetypes
Breakdowns of the core wounds, defensive patterns, beliefs, and somatic cues for each trauma language so you can identify your adaptive style and shift it.
8. Your Personal Awareness Map
A one-page worksheet to map your wound, triggers, nervous system state, and growth path — turning insight into actual change.
• Build emotional capacity so stress doesn’t take over
• Stay connected during rupture instead of shutting down or reacting
• Communicate your needs more clearly
• Repair with honesty and accountability
• Understand what’s beneath your triggers
• Regulate your body in real time
• Move from protection → awareness → connection
Books give you insight.
This pack gives you integration.
Together, they help you become more grounded, aware, and capable of real connection.
The book gives you understanding.
The bundle gives you transformation.
Together, they help you become a grounded, connected, self-aware human—capable of real intimacy and repair.
