The Hu-Man experience: Understanding the Mirror
This free guide breaks down the basics of human relationships: every relationship has connection, rupture, and the need for repair. It shows the three core skills that make repair possible—authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability—and explains the difference between feelings (sensations) and emotions (messages).
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
• Why all relationships experience rupture
• What makes genuine repair possible
• The roles of authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in connection
• The difference between feelings (body sensations) and emotions (messages)
• How emotions act as information about your relationships
• The body cues and messages behind fear, anger, sadness, disgust, trust, love, happiness, and relish
• How to bring up your pain without attacking or blaming
WHO THIS IS FOR
• Anyone wanting healthier, more honest communication
• Couples working through conflict or misunderstanding
• People who struggle naming what they feel or need
• Anyone overwhelmed by emotions and wanting simple clarity
• Coaches, guides, or practitioners who need easy-to-explain emotional concepts
THE PROBLEM THIS SOLVES
Most people don’t understand what’s actually happening during conflict — or how to repair without shame, blame, or shutdown.
This guide gives you:
• clarity about rupture
• the foundations of repair
• simple emotional messages
• the difference between body sensation + emotion
• a way to bring up pain without attacking
It makes emotional connection way less confusing.
RECOMMENDED BOOK TO PAIR WITH
Rupture & Repair
This book takes you deeper into the full relational framework, communication tools, and how to rebuild safety and connection.
This is the natural next step.
ADD-ON: Trauma Language Essentials Pack (8 PDFs)
Deepen the work. Make it usable in real life.
This 8-PDF pack is designed to support the emotional and relational work inside each book. While the book gives you understanding, this pack gives you the tools to practice it in daily moments of stress, conflict, or overwhelm.
Included in the Trauma Language Essentials Pack:
1. Somatic Practices for Regulating Your Nervous System
Practical tools for calming fight/flight and freeze states so your body can come back into safety. These practices help you stay present instead of overwhelmed.
2. Trauma Languages & How to Bring Your Body Back to Safety
Clear regulation steps for each trauma language — Protector, Pleaser, Fixer, Withdrawer, and Fighter — so you know exactly what to do when your pattern activates.
3. Trauma Talks: Safer Words for the 5 Ways We Cope
Compassionate, non-triggering language that helps you communicate during stress without escalating conflict or shutting down connection.
4. From Protection to Connection: Trauma Repair Scripts That Rebuild Trust
Real-world repair phrases rooted in authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability. These scripts help you repair ruptures without blame, collapse, or defensiveness.
5. Repair Phrases for Clarity, Connection & Calm — Needs Inventory
A list of emotional needs + phrase templates that help you communicate clearly when you feel overwhelmed or misunderstood.
6. Beneath the Trigger: A Map to Emotional Clarity & Core Needs
A step-by-step map that walks you from raw sensation → emotion → story → wound → need. This is SEPIC in a simple, usable form.
7. The 5 Trauma Language Archetypes
Breakdowns of the core wounds, defensive patterns, beliefs, and somatic cues for each trauma language so you can identify your adaptive style and shift it.
8. Your Personal Awareness Map
A one-page worksheet to map your wound, triggers, nervous system state, and growth path — turning insight into actual change.
WHAT THIS ADD-ON HELPS YOU DO
• Build emotional capacity so stress doesn’t take over
• Stay connected during rupture instead of shutting down or reacting
• Communicate your needs more clearly
• Repair with honesty and accountability
• Understand what’s beneath your triggers
• Regulate your body in real time
• Move from protection → awareness → connection
Books give you insight.
This pack gives you integration.
Together, they help you become more grounded, aware, and capable of real connection.
The book gives you understanding.
The bundle gives you transformation.
Together, they help you become a grounded, connected, self-aware human—capable of real intimacy and repair.
This free guide breaks down the basics of human relationships: every relationship has connection, rupture, and the need for repair. It shows the three core skills that make repair possible—authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability—and explains the difference between feelings (sensations) and emotions (messages).
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
• Why all relationships experience rupture
• What makes genuine repair possible
• The roles of authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability in connection
• The difference between feelings (body sensations) and emotions (messages)
• How emotions act as information about your relationships
• The body cues and messages behind fear, anger, sadness, disgust, trust, love, happiness, and relish
• How to bring up your pain without attacking or blaming
WHO THIS IS FOR
• Anyone wanting healthier, more honest communication
• Couples working through conflict or misunderstanding
• People who struggle naming what they feel or need
• Anyone overwhelmed by emotions and wanting simple clarity
• Coaches, guides, or practitioners who need easy-to-explain emotional concepts
THE PROBLEM THIS SOLVES
Most people don’t understand what’s actually happening during conflict — or how to repair without shame, blame, or shutdown.
This guide gives you:
• clarity about rupture
• the foundations of repair
• simple emotional messages
• the difference between body sensation + emotion
• a way to bring up pain without attacking
It makes emotional connection way less confusing.
RECOMMENDED BOOK TO PAIR WITH
Rupture & Repair
This book takes you deeper into the full relational framework, communication tools, and how to rebuild safety and connection.
This is the natural next step.
ADD-ON: Trauma Language Essentials Pack (8 PDFs)
Deepen the work. Make it usable in real life.
This 8-PDF pack is designed to support the emotional and relational work inside each book. While the book gives you understanding, this pack gives you the tools to practice it in daily moments of stress, conflict, or overwhelm.
Included in the Trauma Language Essentials Pack:
1. Somatic Practices for Regulating Your Nervous System
Practical tools for calming fight/flight and freeze states so your body can come back into safety. These practices help you stay present instead of overwhelmed.
2. Trauma Languages & How to Bring Your Body Back to Safety
Clear regulation steps for each trauma language — Protector, Pleaser, Fixer, Withdrawer, and Fighter — so you know exactly what to do when your pattern activates.
3. Trauma Talks: Safer Words for the 5 Ways We Cope
Compassionate, non-triggering language that helps you communicate during stress without escalating conflict or shutting down connection.
4. From Protection to Connection: Trauma Repair Scripts That Rebuild Trust
Real-world repair phrases rooted in authenticity, vulnerability, and accountability. These scripts help you repair ruptures without blame, collapse, or defensiveness.
5. Repair Phrases for Clarity, Connection & Calm — Needs Inventory
A list of emotional needs + phrase templates that help you communicate clearly when you feel overwhelmed or misunderstood.
6. Beneath the Trigger: A Map to Emotional Clarity & Core Needs
A step-by-step map that walks you from raw sensation → emotion → story → wound → need. This is SEPIC in a simple, usable form.
7. The 5 Trauma Language Archetypes
Breakdowns of the core wounds, defensive patterns, beliefs, and somatic cues for each trauma language so you can identify your adaptive style and shift it.
8. Your Personal Awareness Map
A one-page worksheet to map your wound, triggers, nervous system state, and growth path — turning insight into actual change.
WHAT THIS ADD-ON HELPS YOU DO
• Build emotional capacity so stress doesn’t take over
• Stay connected during rupture instead of shutting down or reacting
• Communicate your needs more clearly
• Repair with honesty and accountability
• Understand what’s beneath your triggers
• Regulate your body in real time
• Move from protection → awareness → connection
Books give you insight.
This pack gives you integration.
Together, they help you become more grounded, aware, and capable of real connection.
The book gives you understanding.
The bundle gives you transformation.
Together, they help you become a grounded, connected, self-aware human—capable of real intimacy and repair.